How to Choose a Therapist

How to Choose a Therapist

The Psych Talk

Once you decide you would like to get therapy, you have to go through the process of finding the therapist that is right for you. This can be a daunting task so I have compiled a list of things that could help you narrow down your options and get the most out of therapy.

Decide what you want

First of all, it is important to figure out what it is you want from a therapist. Look into the various kinds of treatments and figure out which would best suit you. You also have to decide on any qualities you would like your therapist to have. For example, you may want a male therapist, LGBT therapist or a Christian therapist. It is important to find someone you can trust to get the most out of therapy.

Assess your Budget

Money can be a big barrier to receiving help. Figure out how…

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Dispelling the Myth of Absent Black Fathers

A beautiful and honest collection of thoughts from my oldest son, Blair.

Blair’s Way

I’d be lying if I didn’t grin or feel a source of pride every time someone complimented me on being a good father or how they admired my relationship with my son. Though I don’t need gratification from anyone, it is a good feeling and quite frankly, it’s important for people to be exposed to positive images of black fathers and their children.  Let the mainstream media tell it, no black fathers are present in their children’s lives. But that is a story for another day. I was at cookout for my fraternity brother’s birthday party when a friend of mine told me he admired my involvement in my son’s life. But what stuck out to me the most was when he ended with, “a lot of black dads aren’t around like that.”

I thought to myself, “I never saw another option.” There really isn’t one. My son is a…

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A year ago today: The days that time stopped

A year ago today: The days that time stopped

This is an interesting and powerful post about grieving the loss of a parent…we need to get more comfortable talking about “the uncomfortable.”

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18th May 2019

Today marks a year since my Mum was told she had cancer.

I don’t want to talk about how that makes me feel as such but more about what this date represents to me.

It was the beginning of the grieving process, I just wasn’t aware of it at the time. I had no real idea that this was the start of something that would change my whole life and state of mind forever.

This date is the start of a journey to lots of firsts for us as a family. My first birthday without her, her first angel birthday and of course the first anniversary of her passing.

I can already feel this tightness in my chest, this weight that I carry with me becoming heavier and harder to handle. I can remember each day so clearly and I know with each passing day now I’ll…

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Musings of a M.a.d.woman #2

Musings of a M.a.d.woman #2

My Mother's Day gifts arrived this evening. Three days after the actual holiday, my oldest son showed up --- apologizing. awkward. averted glaze. gifts in hand. "I was gonna wrap them, but I knew you would just unwrap them anyway, soooo," he says, shrugging. That 1,000 pound weight which I'd been carrying for days lifted. [...]